Feminine Feminist

Feminine Feminist? Isn’t that an oxymoron? Not exactly, and yes.

Today I read a blog entry about a feminist who decided to have breast augmentation. She wrote about how she kept it to herself out of fear of what others would think or say. She didn’t want potential employers to assume she was intellectually lacking. She even wrote a book about her journey under a pen name! (wtf)

Isn’t feminism about women being accept as equals to men?> isn’t feminism about women being able to make our own choices about our bodies? When did feminism become about being LESS feminine?

If you have followed my blog, you know I long for a Stepford like place where ladies are ladies, and men are men. I long for a place where women (and lady boys) take the time to be fabulous. Men appreciate and take the time to enjoy and appreciate it. This DOES NOT make me an antifeminist.

I see nothing wrong, and actually am in awe of the women who are stay at home moms (who are actually moms and not just a mother who chooses to stay at home and not pay attention to her children…but that is for another blog). Stay at home moms have a hard job. It is a choice that a woman has made, and the choice she makes is her CHOICE, not something that has been dictated that she must do.  That doesn't make me an anti-feminist.

Feminine and being a feminist have become a dirty words. Put them together and people are confused. Feminine is defined as having qualities traditionally ascribed to a woman. Feminist is defined as an advocate of social, political, legal, and economic rights for women equal to those of men.  Looking at the definition, why would having traditional qualities hinder your ability to be a feminist? Feminism should by definition embrace being feminine because feminism encompasses qualities of a woman (traditional or otherwise).

 Ladies, if you choose to dress in a more masculine manner that is also your choice. If you choose to wear your hair long and wear dresses, that is your choice. If you choose to have a breast augmentation, reduction, liposuction, lip injections, or Botox. That is your CHOICE! How you dress or choose to enhance yourself does not make you more or less of a woman. You are still a woman! By making choices in your personal and professional life you are a feminist. You are standing up for choices that men have had for years.

Ladies, feminine, masculine, or androgynous stand up and be proud. You are a woman! No matter what you look like or what job you have, you are a feminist!